Hello, my friends.
In this lesson, I’m going to talk about how I conquer the winter blahs.
I have no idea what month it is when you’re watching this video or reading the blog, but I’ve recorded it in December. We have passed into that time of year where it gets dark early. The days are much shorter. The nights are much longer.
Although this time of year is full of celebrations, holidays, love, parties, and all of that, it is also a time where, quite often, people are feeling negative thoughts – sadness, depression, and loneliness.
This is my recipe for dealing with the winter blahs. And, oh, by the way, this is not something I’m just lecturing on, and I don’t feel. I am not immune to these feelings any more than anyone else. Even though I am an optimist and an upbeat person, I must put this armor on each and every day.
In fact, this time of year requires that very purposely. My father passed away during this time of year. On and around the particular day of his passing each year, I respect, love, and have positive thoughts about him. It can be bittersweet, so I also need to make sure I shake it off and do not carry a cloud over my head that would keep me from serving my clients the way I’m supposed to. I obviously am going to be around my family and friends as well, and want to be a source of positivity for them.
So here is how I conquer the winter blahs.
As mentioned above, winter is a time where days are shorter, and the nights are longer. Make sure you get as much light as you can. Use artificial light. Use the ambient light you have – open curtains. Get outside, take a walk.
Quite often, I go outside, even though I’m coaching people. I have hosted calls while walking around my front yard. It’s not just more interesting in the sense of adding moderate exercise, but it also allows you to get sunlight, and that’s extremely important. Even lighting a candle has been proven to be a source of positivity and warmth.
Everyone has different taste in music. I’m not going to tell you what music to use, but play music that lightens your spirit and lightens your heart, whether it reminds you of something in your past or it’s upbeat, funny, or stimulating. Utilize music to help you fight any sense of dreariness or negativity.
Also important is the sound of other people. Make sure you are interacting with positive people. Avoid contact with people who are notoriously negative and pulling you down. There’s a time and place where you can go serve those people and try to bring them out, but be cautious about doing that too much because there are some folks who, for whatever reason, relish being negative, and they want to pull others down with them.
Focus on your inner circle during this time of year, and make sure you are surrounding yourself to the extent you can with positive, uplifting people.
3. Habits and Affirmations
Practice good habits and repeat your daily affirmations, which we cover in detail in Ascend on Demand. Do a project. Stay busy. Idle hands do the devil’s work…you’ve heard that. Give yourself projects. Whether you’re decluttering, organizing something, or doing something for a loved one or for your household, stay busy. Do something you have been putting off for a rainy day, so to speak. It is less likely you are going to be doing a whole lot outside because of the cold, so make it a productive day by doing a project inside. Being productive helps you not think about negative thoughts.
4. Serve the less fortunate.
I have saved the best for last, and that is to serve others less fortunate than yourself. My favorite is to walk through a nursing home. I don’t do it all the time, but quite often, I will bring my dog into a nursing home. Sometimes I am visiting someone I know, but I’ve done it even when I didn’t know anyone in the nursing home. Tell those in charge who you are, and make sure they’re okay with the dog if you have one. Be sure the dog won’t nip at anyone. Make sure you’re not going in where anyone might have allergies to a dog.
Or you can visit someone who is a shut in, who can’t get out on their own. There’s just something in our human nature that helps us when we help others, when we are causing other people to feel joy and happiness, or to simply tell us a story about something that happened to them years ago.
Quite often, there are neighbors we have who don’t get a lot of human interaction. Visit them face-to-face, or call them on the phone.
Call someone you went to school with or grew up with, maybe that you haven’t spoken to in a while. Reach out to a family member who maybe lost their way.
Be kind to someone. When you cause happiness in another, isn’t it miraculous how it uplifts your own spirit and causes happiness in you?
It’s the law of reciprocity. When you give, you also gain.
If you follow these formulas, I can assure you from experience, you will conquer the winter blahs.
My family and I wish you all a very Merry Christmas, the happiest of Holidays, and a great New Year! And remember, wherever you are in this great big beautiful world, make it a great day!