Hello, my friends.
I am an engineer and a coach, so I am going to draw a parallel – an analogy – between the laws of physics and the laws of human nature using the illustration of a fulcrum.
As you may recall from high school physics class, the fulcrum is that point upon which you can balance an object. The smaller the fulcrum, the less stability there is, and the more precise you have to be in order to keep balance.
With a bigger fulcrum, you can more easily maintain the balance.
Metaphorically speaking, there is a fulcrum for human nature. Far be it from me to tell you what your fulcrum needs to be, but as a coach, I get to talk to a lot of people about the areas of their lives from which they derive the most sense of significance, happiness, success, and achievement. This is the Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, that self-actualization point at which you are performing at your very best. This is the point at which you are the best version of yourself, which is something I’ve talked about for years.
For many people, this point involves faith, family, and fitness, for example, but essentially, you define your own fulcrum.
Creating a strong and broad fulcrum is the key to maintaining balance.
The first step is to be very intentional and very aware about planning what you do. Like any structure, you need a stable base.
Ask yourself these questions:
What defines you at your best?
What do you want your legacy to be?
What is your system for staying on track?
What system keeps you from falling down the rabbit hole of all work and no play, or all play and no work? Either one of these extremes is unhealthy for you financially, relationally, physically, or in almost every manner. I have a tool for creating this system – My Daily Edge. It is designed to help you create, with great intention, what it is you are going to spend time doing on any given day.
What is your accountability system?
End each day with accountability. There is also a place on My Daily Edge for this. At the end of each day, ask yourself the honest question: Did I live up to what I set as intentions this morning?
If you did, congratulations! And if you did not…well, fight the good fight tomorrow. Like the title of Dr. John Maxwell’s book, Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn, if you didn’t create a win today, learn from it, and win tomorrow with the lesson from today.
The bottom line is, we are not perfect.
There are days where I don’t get all the things done that I wanted to do, and I am certainly not going to beat myself up about it because I already knew I was imperfect. I already knew I was human, so I’m just going to go at it tomorrow with that much more energy and enthusiasm.
Recognize that your own attitude about your results and about who you are plays an enormous role in your ability to develop balance and maintain it so that you are getting the kinds of results you want – not just in one or two areas of your life, but in ALL of them.
If you have not yet signed up to get My Daily Edge, do so today! With it, you will also get my free mini-course on how to use it to create a sound fulcrum in your life.