Hello, my friends.
This week, I have a question for you: Do you remember your first time?
Well? Do you remember your first time?
Of course, it begs the question, “The first time for what, Ed?”
Regardless of where your mind went, you probably do remember the first time for something significant in your life.
As an executive coach, I’ve talked to large groups, small groups, and individuals about getting outside their comfort zone. And the point is…the growth in your personal or professional life does not happen within the constraints, within the confines of what you believe your current capabilities are. The excitement happens – the growth happens – outside the comfort zone, which means you have to do something you’ve never done before, so it’s your first time.
I have a long list of first time things I can recall with great specificity, as I’m guessing you do as well.
I remember the first time I got a sale…over twenty years ago. Of course, the customer didn’t realize it was the first sale I ever got. I was so excited and it was like my feet didn’t touch the floor on the way to the car.
There was the first time I had a business trip outside the United States and I was so anxious about the language and cultural barriers. I prepped so hard, but part of me didn’t know that I could do it. And I remember coming back, touching back down on United States soil and just feeling ten feet tall and bulletproof because I had achieved something for the very first time.
I’ll never forget the first time I facilitated an offsite with a corporate team whose members were very angry with each other. I had done many off-sites where everybody was kind of on the same page, and the facilitating was rather straightforward. But at this particular off-site, there were really strong opinions on many sides of a particular issue, and I had to work hard to earn my fee and to facilitate this team’s work through some challenging issues. I didn’t think that I couldn’t do it, but I wasn’t sure if I could. Meeting the challenge was a very rewarding experience, not only for the client, of course, which is my primary motive, but also for me.
I remember the first time I met a boy that was interested in my daughter. I was very anxious, and I actually overplayed the dad hand a little bit, according to my daughter. Needless to say, I scared the young man and I didn’t mean to, but I did. But now I’ve kind of got it down. I’m certainly skeptical and cautious, like most fathers of daughters are, but the first time, my goal was not to physically harm him, and I didn’t. I had no reason to, of course.
In any case, the growth in our lives comes outside of our comfort zones.
Comfort zones suck.
If you’re living inside your comfort zone…well, get out of it!
When was the last time you did something for the first time?
I’ll ask it again.
When was the last time you did something for the first time…something you weren’t quite sure you could do? If you can’t immediately recall the last time you did something for the first time, put it on your list of things to think about.
Where is the limit of your current perceived capabilities?
Make a plan, and make an intention to get outside of that comfort zone. Go do something for the first time, and remember, wherever you are make it a great day!